What is the Shadow Self?

Shadow Work “To confront a person with his own shadow is to show him his own light.” –Carl G. Jung

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There are a variety of reasons why people write blogs. Blogging is a method to deliver a message on the world wide web to others that are interested in what they have to say. The process can be beneficial for those who are looking for some kind of advice and assistance. It enables them from coming out of the situations that are difficult to handle. My blog is like having a free vital life coach many people are afraid to change things in their life and this can be as drastic as moving away from everyone they know to maybe taking a flight when they are afraid of flying.

Life coaches are not therapists, counselors, or psychiatrists. They help people set goals to enhance and improve their lives. They are there to be sure that an individual has adequate support when making life decisions, improving relationships, resolving conflicts, or as sounding boards for people who want to pursue any type of personal development goal. A life coach isn’t just a mentor or friend who gives you advice when you’re having a problem. A happy life is nearly impossible until you begin to own personal power. I expect to be given the freedom to grow personally and spiritually and to give others the same freedom. It means accepting others exactly as they are and not imposing our wishes and beliefs on them. We all are on individual paths; experiencing life and God in our own way.

 

 

 

SPIRITUAL PARTNERSHIP GUIDELINE

S P I R I T U A L  P A R T N E R S H I P  G U I D E L I N E S
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Commitment – MAKING MY SPIRITUAL GROWTH (CREATING AUTHENTIC POWER) MY HIGHEST PRIORITY
Focus on what I can learn about myself all the time, especially from my reactions (such as anger, fear,
jealousy, resentment, and impatience), instead of judging or blaming others or myself.
Pay attention to my emotions by feeling the physical sensations in my energy centers (such as my chest,
solar plexus, and throat areas).
Pay attention to my thoughts (such as judging, analyzing, comparing, daydreaming, planning my reply,
etc., or thoughts of gratitude, appreciation, contentment, openness to Life, etc.).
Pay attention to my intention (such as blaming, judging, needing to be right, seeking admiration,
escaping into thoughts (intellectualizing), trying to convince, etc., or cooperating, sharing, creating
harmony, and revering Life).
Courage – STRETCHING MYSELF BEYOND THE LIMITED PERSPECTIVES OF THE FRIGHTENED PARTS OF MY PERSONALITY
Take responsibility for my feelings, experiences, and actions (no blaming).
Practice integrity at all times (often requires action, such as speaking when frightened parts of my
personality don’t want to speak and not speaking when they feel compelled to speak).
Say or do what is most difficult (sharing what I notice, if appropriate, when someone speaks or acts from
a frightened part of his or her personality; sharing about myself what I am frightened to say and know what I need to say).
Compassion – SEEING MYSELF AND OTHERS AS SOULS WHO SOMETIMES HAVE FRIGHTENED PARTS OF THEIR PERSONALITIES ACTIVE
Change my perspective from fearful to loving (choose to see myself and others in a loving or appreciative way.
Release any distance I feel from anyone.
Be present while others are speaking (not preparing replies, judging, etc.).
Conscious Communications and Actions – STRIVING TO MAKE ALL MY INTERACTIONS CONSCIOUS AND LOVING
Consult my intuition.
Choose my intention before I speak or act.
Act from the healthiest part of my personality that I can access (rather than caretaking, fixing, teaching, judging, blaming, gossiping, etc.).
Speak personally and specifically rather than generally and abstractly (use “I” statements rather than “we” or “you” statements).
Release attachment to the outcome (trust the Universe). If I find myself attached, begin again with
Commitment, Courage, and Compassion.
And remember to enjoy yourself!

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Self-Worth

Self-worth is the value you place on yourself. As with anything of value, the worth you place on yourself can rise and fall based on events currently taking place in your life and situations you are facing. When you ask yourself how much you are worth, the answer you give is your self-worth. It is the part of your personality that determines personal value and importance. Deeply seated within you, it strongly influences your attitudes and the behaviors influencing your success or failure. When self-worth is low, people have little or no energy to think, feel, and do. They lack the motivation to participate in life. You can acquire money, property, and prestige, to have everyone in the world adore you, but if you are not at peace within, if you do not Love, Respect and Accept your Self, nothing will work to make you Truly happy.

The important thing to understand is all of us have the ability to make any decision that we want and become anything that we want to. It is our thoughts that determine our destiny and while there are those that like nothing more than eat away at our confidence and try to make us feel worthless, it is ourselves that decide to either feel worthy about everything that we do or continually eat. The real us, our true self, never doubts who we are, our abilities, or ourselves. The doubt comes from an old moment that triggered a change in how we saw ourselves and that is all. See that moment for what it was, not the building blocks of who you are, but a singular moment in time. Do not identify yourself any longer by an old, misinformed personal decision. Change your mind about who you are; be the real you, confident, worthy, and accepting of who you are. The only thing you will lose is the emptiness because it will be filled once again with your self-worth. Developing self worth requires refusing to think negative thoughts or speaking such thoughts about you. This destroys self confidence. To improve self worth, do not worry about your faults. No one is perfect. Do not take yourself so seriously. Laugh at your silly mistakes instead of beating yourself over the head with them. Make a list of everything that you do well and celebrate your successes.

Do not be ashamed of your weaknesses, they a part of what makes you, you. This interferes with developing yourself worth. We were all given the precise strengths and weaknesses to accomplish the purpose that our maker has for us. Everyone has a purpose. Our job is to find what we do best and do it for God. That is when we will feel fulfilled.When you carry a happy attitude into every activity you engage in you will notice people gravitate to you. Making an effort to love and nurture yourself everyday will encourage a peaceful mind-set and an optimistic outlook that will enhance every aspect of your life and those around you. Cheer yourself up when you are feeling blue by doing something for someone else. This will lift you both up. Count your blessings instead of your mistakes. It is never too late to create a happy life. The choice is yours. Choose wisely.

India.Arie – Gift of Acceptance Feat. Idan Raichel

Relationship with God

Don’t be afraid to have a relationship with God. He is not a big mean God who stands there just waiting for you to mess up, so He can punish you! He is a loving God, who is patient and kind and so willing to help you. He never asks anything of you that He is not willing to help you accomplish. Don’t try to understand everything right now. Just take it one day at a time. You will learn as you go. He will teach you all you need to know, line upon line, as you follow Him. So many people think turning your life over to God means you are suddenly going to be handed a list of things you have to give up. I won’t mislead you…there will be things that you will find out are no longer considered acceptable if you are going to follow God’s plan for your life. It will take some time for you to understand why God wants those things to change, but you will see, over time, that He has your best interest at heart.

“Wherefore I put thee in remembrance that thou stir up the gift of God, which is in thee by the putting on of my hands. For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. Be not thou therefore ashamed of the testimony of our Lord, nor of me his prisoner: but be thou partaker of the afflictions of the gospel according to the power of God; Who hath saved us, and called us with an holy calling, not according to our works, but according to his own purpose and grace, which was given us in Christ Jesus before the world began”
2 Timothy 1:6-9

POWER OF INTENTION

Intention is actually something that is always happening, whether we know it or not. Every thought we think, every word we speak, and every action we do is an intention that is moving us in the direction of a future experience. The beautiful thing about this is that we have the power to direct our intentions. There are things that occur in life, we think, we feel, we behave, and things happen. We cannot control what happens outside of ourselves, but we can control how we think, feel, and behave about what happens.
“Our intention creates our reality.” – Wayne Dyer

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LETTING GO OF NEGATIVE THOUGHTS

You can’t go through life complaining about everything and thinking negative thoughts or that is how your life will go. Use positive thoughts to help get your attitude changed to a good one every day and soon it will become habit and you will find that you are always happier than you ever were before. To transform your life, you must refuse to permit negative thoughts about your weaknesses to discourage you. Since you’re dominating, thoughts determine your attitude and success, force yourself to think positively. Find a career where you can take advantage of your strengths and minimize your weaknesses. Doing what you love will naturally set off your passion and magnify your optimism. The good thing is that irregardless of our current situation, we are able to control the thought that is going on in our mind. We can choose to have a positive thinking or choose to have a negative thinking.

This is why it is very important to renew your mind with natural laws and principles of success in order to experience it. Negative thinking will do nothing but produce negative results. Positive thinking will produce positive results. The crucial matter about transforming your life is how to deal effectively with your positive and negative thoughts. Your subconscious mind acts on your dominating thoughts. Be certain to keep positive confident thoughts far above doubtful ones. Negative thoughts are useful by warning of dangers. Have a plan to overcome dangers and dismiss ugly thoughts from your mind. On the other hand, if you are negative, you, then, you will tend to attract negative people to you. So it is to your advantage to be positive and affect the world in a positive way. So have a positive attitude and live a self confident life. You will make the world around you a better place to live, but how does your thoughts and attitude affect others and the world around you? By being positive and focused on happy thoughts, your positive outlook tends to attract people to you. People are drawn to you as they enjoy being around happy and positive people. These happy, positive people tend to have more friends and are healthier.

As you know, having a positive attitude makes you feel good about yourself. Your self esteem and self confidence is also affected in a positive way. Yourself thoughts tend to be positive. You feel happy. There is one simple way which can train you on how to be able to have a positive attitude. Every time your mind is thinking of a negative thing, stop at the moment and ask yourself why you are thinking this way. Once you know the reason, replace the negative thinking with a positive thing and tell yourself the reason why you should have this thinking. (please rewind) Once you know the reason, replace the negative thinking with a positive thing and tell yourself the reason why you should have this thinking. It might seem to be difficult at first. But once you are constantly doing it, it will soon come natural to you and you will have more positive thinking. So remember that if your attitude is positive, it affects the world around you in a positive way. People feel good being around you and you attract positive people around you. You will have a happier and more confident life.

LIVING ON PURPOSE

Purpose is a focus, an intent. Finding your purpose will allow you to answer: What do I intend to give to the world? Do you wish to leave this planet with things untried, undone and unsaid? In our heart of hearts, each of us wants to live passionately according to whom we truly are at our deepest level, and to strive for our most noble and beautiful vision of the world. Purposeful living also means living your life with intention. When you are aware of your desires and the reasons behind them, you are also in a position to receive powerful guidance that then follows through to manifestation. Be who you want to be now. Meaning, embrace the present moment and feel your joy within. When you are happy inside, you tell the universe that you are fulfilled. This doesn’t mean you no longer have desires (desires can motivate, inspire, and enlighten you to your purpose). It simply means that you are not dependant on or attached to something external in order to make you happy. What this does is create a mentality in you that becomes magnetic to attracting your best destiny of total fulfillment.

Here are some signs that you might not be on purpose right now: if you feel lost in life, don’t know what you want, not sure what to do next, your relationships aren’t fulfilling, money isn’t flowing, your environment isn’t supportive, your body doesn’t feel healthy and vital. When you are not living purposefully, you get random, unexpected results like these that will likely one day cause you to feel dissatisfied, at the very least. Without purpose, we are without direction and without direction; when there is no direction, insecurity appears. We do our choices under pressure, without the effort to think what is best for us, pushed by the ideological machine that promises wealth and prosperity and happiness without the corresponding effort. Each time we go against this deep sense of knowing and rightness, we eat away at our own energy source and become compromised human beings. Consciously or not, we struggle, knowing we are someone who has settled for less than their best, believing now more in limitation than in possibility. When you are aligned with your unique reason for being, your life purpose, the Universe is positioned to reward you – there is a clear and open “oneness” with the Universe around your illuminated purpose.

Our passions often carry us in the direction of our purpose, as long as they are not distorted by our egos. When we act out of true inspiration, we are aligned with our soul’s desires. When we live our lives in this way, we live it with joy and fulfillment. We feel happy within because we are always following our hearts. We are detached from the outcome, knowing that all is manifesting in the best way, even if that means unexpected yet joyous surprises. Living on purpose creates success. Living on purpose for your wealthiest life is pretty much the same thing. If you want to be wealthy (whatever that means to you), the more purposeful you are about getting there the quicker it can happen for you. By choosing a purpose to live life by, life takes on meaning and direction. That is important, critical even, to personal fulfillment and happiness. Every person is unique in what they came here to do and experience. However, all of us have something in common; we are all connected to Source and we are all destined for joy and fulfillment. Bearing witness to God’s presence is more than talk, it’s a lifestyle that shows forth God’s love, joy, and peace with every move.
The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose.